4. The therapist should also give you practical advice and things to think about
that you can take home and work on between sessions.

Before you choose a therapist you should interview them. Talk to them over the
phone before you set up an appointment. Discuss the issues I raised earlier. By
using the above suggestions you should get a pretty good idea about this
potential therapist.

If you would like more information about selecting a therapist, see the article
"Selecting a Good Marital Therapist" in the Marriage Counseling section.

The Good News:
You may only require a few sessions. Three months is probably the average
time for noticeable psychological improvement to occur for many problems.
(See Consumer Reports (1995), "Mental Health: Does Therapy Help?", pp.
734-739). Individual experiences will vary. Some issues or deep seeded
problems do take awhile to work out. Why not find out what is involved? I
remember years ago when I was in college and money was tight. I didn't have
any heat in the passenger side of my car. I was afraid to go to have it checked
out because I was worried about how much it would cost. Finally, after riding
around wearing a hat and gloves, I impulsively drove to an auto mechanic to
check out what the problem was. I said to myself "I will freeze no longer."
"What ever it takes I will do". I found out that I was low on antifreeze. Things
aren't always as bad as we think. Sometimes a quick look by a "mechanic" can
offer easier solutions that we thought possible. Don't stay out in the cold when
you don't have to.